I have been working on our Dear Birthparent letter and our profile. It's a lot of work! It's hard to figure out what you want to say to a woman/couple who are going to give you the most wonderful gift of your life. How do I explain to them how much we will love their child? How do I give them a glimpse into our life and provide them enough information about us to let them know we will be wonderful parents? How can I describe the life we will provide for this child? Words just aren't adequate for such a letter. I've written the letter and had several friends look it over and they all give us great feedback, but somehow I just don't feel it's enough. Nothing ever will be though.
So that's why I've been absent. I've been pouring over pictures, overthinking ever single word I write and not sleeping much at all. But, it's been amazing for me to do this. I wouldn't have it any other way. Someday I'll get back to commenting on your blogs...I promise. Don't lose faith in me.
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It is a big task! I had the fortune/misfortune of having to write mine VERY fast and therefor didn't agonize over every word....:)
Have fun!
I can definitely imagine how that would take all your focus and attention!! And I can't even imagine how difficult it must be to write, to convey everything you mentioned. Wow, but its really exciting. I'm glad your in the thick of it and hoping everything continue to progress smoothly for you!!
Oh yes, it's a tough task trying to show ALL that you are as a family in a letter and a few photos. I remember going over one or two sentences over and over again. One day I just had to say "enough is enough." What I know is that they usually see one little thing that draws them to us...and we can't predict what that will be. So we just have to be ourselves and let the rest take its course:). Try not to agonize over it - what is meant to, will be. Good luck!
I've missed you and been hoping everything was going well, but I know that has got to be a daunting task. I think you're amazing, and you will find the right words to say for the 'right' birthmother to choose you to parent her child!! It will work out, as you've put every detail in God's hands, and His plan is perfect!!!
I completely understand. We didn't have to write one of these letters since we are adopting internationally, but I know if we did it would taken all my focus. As others have said just be yourself, you never know what specific thing about your life is going to draw a birthmother to you. I think the hardest thing for me would be being who I am, not who I think someone else would want me to be. I have no doubt at all that your profile will turn out wonderfully and a very special woman or couple will see it and know that you and your hubby are who she wants to parent her child.
I can't even begin to fathom what I would put in a letter to a birth parent. Like you said, there are no words. You just want to show them somehow. Let them glimpse into the future or something.
That is a mamoth task.
I am sure once you are done, it will be perfect. I pray that your mind is clear and your heart is open to acurately describe what you feel in a way that it touches a birth mother sooner than later.
Sending you well wishes and hugs!
I'm sure no matter what that letter will be perfect and the birthmom of your future child will know you're the one they're looking for!
I can understand your frustraion and the need to go back and re-write parts of your letter. I'm praying for you sweetie :)
exciting time in your life!!! I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be to write that letter,but I know you will do a wonderful jib!
That's a huge, important job! Take your time!
But: miss you. :)
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